Im pregnant again for the third time 3 years in a row and the doctor says it might be my last pregnancy, which is a good thing. Its a good thing I'm 21 and extremely fit enough to have three caesareans in a row. I'm robust and healthy and I love my children. The thing is people keep complaining towards me why I keep doing this when I don't even ask them to change my kid's diapers, I don't ask them to pay for my children's clothes and they never have fed my kids...ever. They're making me feel as if this is an unwanted pregnancy, maybe for them but definitely not me, it's my child and I'm very sure I'll love it as the first and the second one. I would also worry over each one of them. This shouldn't be the case, I buy expensive things for my children while those who complain don't and couldn't afford to. Financially able and money wise with a husband like mine I shouldn't feel compelled to be subject to their comments and criticisms. But why does it bug me?
In a Modern Muslim society having birth control is a normal thing, unlike Catholic Christians who think of it as an abomination. Every mode of contraceptive is normal, however there is a golden rule to the muslim contraception game. It is unlawful or haram for a person or persons to allow contraception in the fear that they would not be able to afford their children. However for other reasons such as health, beauty contraception is allowed. The due fact is that most people intervene in their pregnancies and use contraception or abortion is because mothers fear that they cannot afford to care for their kids. In the West, such things are closest to transgression of nature, lampooned constantly. However, the idea is undigestible by today's standards there have been many examples of very rich and successful men and women who have been able to live their life despite having a very large family. There's the very true story of the 10 Johor sisters and brothers who all went to university. How, you ask, especially with the mounting taxes and costs to educate your children, its not like they went to an Ivy League school but actually a few of the siblings did go to Cambridge of London, sponsored by the government and his majesty the Sultan of Johor, if I'm not mistaken. In Brunei, the opportunities are even more apparent, I go to university and it isn't exactly Ivy League but I can bet you the lecturers are all very credible and very diverse. We have twinning programs with other universities and we're affiliated with the top universities of the UK. I get paid too, a small stipend actually of 350$, I know its not a lot, but it pays for a whole month of school lunches. Raise your hands if you think UBD canteen tastes like crap and overcharges! Its such a lazy walk to go across at the girl's hostel restaurant or the guy's hostels very nice Amsarra restaurant. Anyway, the Brunei UBD has a very low annual rate for anyone interested in having a Bruneian degree (don't worry we're approved worldwide, unlike M'sian degrees which have a bit difficulty when sorting out the diplomas' credibility). Having had an Australian education I feel as if in Brunei they give out high quality education. For one thing, they don't spoon feed you and yes, its just as hard as any other university, the only crack is to work hard, research hard. A girl my batch in highschool finished her degree in the UK using the fast track system, it goes Foundation 8months HND for a year then straight to 3rd year degree. I was on the system but I only finished the Foundations course. It was 30,000 per semester for the degree courses, jaws could drop my parents could never afford that, or if they could, I would be in Australia covered with rags. Ive known around 6 people who was in my WABDA (West Australia's Brunei Darussalam Association) who actually repeated over and over again then returned, not completing their degrees. What a waste 2 semesters was enough to buy half an acre of land, in suburbia, I hear its so expensive in the city now, it costs a million for a measly 0.25 acres. I have a house that I don't live in, cost my dad 600,000 when he bought it (plus a massive interest), aiyaa one day when my mom is goal i'll probably sell it.
In a Modern Muslim society having birth control is a normal thing, unlike Catholic Christians who think of it as an abomination. Every mode of contraceptive is normal, however there is a golden rule to the muslim contraception game. It is unlawful or haram for a person or persons to allow contraception in the fear that they would not be able to afford their children. However for other reasons such as health, beauty contraception is allowed. The due fact is that most people intervene in their pregnancies and use contraception or abortion is because mothers fear that they cannot afford to care for their kids. In the West, such things are closest to transgression of nature, lampooned constantly. However, the idea is undigestible by today's standards there have been many examples of very rich and successful men and women who have been able to live their life despite having a very large family. There's the very true story of the 10 Johor sisters and brothers who all went to university. How, you ask, especially with the mounting taxes and costs to educate your children, its not like they went to an Ivy League school but actually a few of the siblings did go to Cambridge of London, sponsored by the government and his majesty the Sultan of Johor, if I'm not mistaken. In Brunei, the opportunities are even more apparent, I go to university and it isn't exactly Ivy League but I can bet you the lecturers are all very credible and very diverse. We have twinning programs with other universities and we're affiliated with the top universities of the UK. I get paid too, a small stipend actually of 350$, I know its not a lot, but it pays for a whole month of school lunches. Raise your hands if you think UBD canteen tastes like crap and overcharges! Its such a lazy walk to go across at the girl's hostel restaurant or the guy's hostels very nice Amsarra restaurant. Anyway, the Brunei UBD has a very low annual rate for anyone interested in having a Bruneian degree (don't worry we're approved worldwide, unlike M'sian degrees which have a bit difficulty when sorting out the diplomas' credibility). Having had an Australian education I feel as if in Brunei they give out high quality education. For one thing, they don't spoon feed you and yes, its just as hard as any other university, the only crack is to work hard, research hard. A girl my batch in highschool finished her degree in the UK using the fast track system, it goes Foundation 8months HND for a year then straight to 3rd year degree. I was on the system but I only finished the Foundations course. It was 30,000 per semester for the degree courses, jaws could drop my parents could never afford that, or if they could, I would be in Australia covered with rags. Ive known around 6 people who was in my WABDA (West Australia's Brunei Darussalam Association) who actually repeated over and over again then returned, not completing their degrees. What a waste 2 semesters was enough to buy half an acre of land, in suburbia, I hear its so expensive in the city now, it costs a million for a measly 0.25 acres. I have a house that I don't live in, cost my dad 600,000 when he bought it (plus a massive interest), aiyaa one day when my mom is goal i'll probably sell it.
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